Get Back Your Ex-Girlfriend By Being Less Reachable And An Increased Challenge For Her
You were a challenge for her. You had a high appeal and she was initially irresistibly attracted to you. Now she's gone and you are saying: "I want my ex back!"
I'm preparing to make a wild guess here, but can it be that as time went on, you grew to be less and less of a challenge for her? And can it be that currently, you are zero challenge for her? Not to mention that she understands that if she wanted to, at any moment she could get you back again and wrapped around her finger just by saying the word?
I'm going to be crude here, but as you know, to become a challenge once more you have to prove to your ex lover that her sexuality does not have any control over you any longer. Take into account what it's like when you're stalking her with not returned telephone calls, voice mails, text messages, and emails. And then think about just what it's like when you keep doing it (as many guys do) even after she's told you to stop. You're implying to the woman that you're a low-value guy without any other choices.
She is not going to respect you again until you reject her sexual dominance over you. Luckily you're doing that now by not personally corresponding with her. The last thing she needs to hear from you now is how much "I want my ex back", so stay away from her.
Make sure you stay 100% strict with your communication cut-off. Be careful not to be "buddies" with her, as that rewards your ex with the continuing approval of power over you while providing her a handy excuse to stay broken up. (She justifies that she is letting you down easy that way, assuaging virtually any guilt she may feel.)
On the other hand, you should definitely keep her locked in with the help of your stuff. Most likely quite a few your belongings are at her residence, and vice versa. She may also owe you money as well. She might ask a mutual friend of yours to ask you if you'd like everything back.
The very best response to this is definitely "No, not yet. The rationale is simply because her holding onto your stuff (and you holding onto hers) is still locking the two of you in and ensuring future communication. You do NOT want to give her the psychological closure that would result from settling your accounts.
For the next 3 weeks, you must completely acknowledge -- and embrace -- the idea that you are an independent person now. Take what transpired with your ex-girlfriend and learn from it. You've got a fantastic opportunity to revolutionize your life which will ultimately allow you to get your exgirlfriend back.
